It Is What It Is

I so hate this saying with a passion. I’ve not been on here for a long time, I will elaborate more in the next few days. So much has happened in my life and when things happen that are out of my control or upset me people always say It Is What It Is. Makes me want to scream.

The beautiful view that I had at the bottom of my garden, well they’re now starting to build on that field. I used to love looking across there early in the morning when it was so peaceful and early evening when I got in from work after a long day. So relaxing looking at the beautiful view. Felt so sad when they put a fence up, I cried. 23 years I’ve had such a beautiful view to look at. But people say It Is What It Is, like so what, suck it up buttercup. Well no I’m not a robot, I have feelings and this has made me unhappy. I know I’m very lucky to have a garden still but that view was one of the reasons for me and my husband buying our house.

Also lovely seeing the foxes and deer and then the geese would land on the field this time of year. All these things helped to soothe my soul and destress me which is important when you have Fibromyalgia. Felt like being on holiday sitting on my decking at the bottom of my garden when the weather was nice.

I recently had to hand in my notice at work after being off sick again with the Fibromyalgia. That was very hard for me but after being back for 5 months working lots of hours unfortunately Fibromyalgia won. Again what do I hear It Is What It Is. Want to scream even more by this point.

Also while being off sick I had to have a minor operation, attend 2 family weddings shortly after, Fibromyalgia made worse by a 9 hour car journey, awaiting test results, thankfully all good. Get a nasty bout of Costochondritis which is pain and inflammation where your ribs join your breast bone and is extremely painful. Say I’m feeling a bit fed up to be told It Is What It Is yet again. Now I’m not one to moan and complain and most people were surprised to find out I had Fibromyalgia, about 15 plus years now. I just get on with it but sometimes it would be nice to feel people care.

Fibromyalgia is a very horrible illness and a very lonely one. I look fine on the outside, they don’t see me at my worse. Oh and so much shock I’ve left my job. Unfortunately I had to. My health had to come first, especially with finding out the awful pain in my knee is arthritis. But why should I have to explain to people and feel belittled. My life, my choice. My turn to say to all of those people It Is What It Is and you can suck it up buttercup.